Dealing with Setbacks

This article speaks directly to what I’ve been dealing with lately, namely how do I deal with what I want to achieve, versus what I have actually been doing to achieve those goals?  I find I have been pushing the daily experience of life away.  I haven’t been able to be with how my body is, or the way my old habits reasserted themselves.  This has spilled over into not being able to be with the people around me … how they are, and how they aren’t.

I have decided to tackle this with baby steps.  I am focusing on one habit at a time, and being patient to watch the changes grow.

The Athletic Mind, Part 1: The Role of Perception in Athletics | Breaking Muscle

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The Unexpected Antidote to Procrastination, by Peter Bregman

The Unexpected Antidote to Procrastination, by Peter Bregman.

This is so true!  Why do many of us overeat?  To keep from feeling what’s really going on in our lives.  What happens when we put off doing a workout?  We drag out dread and anticipation, when we could power through it, pay attention to our bodies WHILE working out, and savor the amazing feelings we have when we’re done.  Don’t just take my word for it … this is a great article!

Working out together, we find the will to keep on going | Pacific NW | The Seattle Times

Working out together, we find the will to keep on going | Pacific NW | The Seattle Times.

I had to post a link to this article, since this is exactly what Mentoring Movement is out to create.  It’s easier to create the habit of exercise, and fully internalize that you are a “fit person” and an “active person” when you have the support of a community.  We are creating that support … person by person … so that those starting out get the opportunity to get the support they need.

Thank you Maureen O’Hagan and the Seattle Times for a great article on what we’re about!

Invite the Punch

Typically, when we defend we tense up to protect our self. In the Ring, in Everyday Life, If an attack is perceived a first Reaction is usually one of tension. This tension is more of a resistance to what is going to occur than a response to the degree of severity of what we are dealing with.

Learning to Invite the Punch begins with becoming familiar with the Tension Pattern we use in a moment of crisis.

One common Tension Pattern used to protect the self is a Shoulder Slump, when both ends of the Shoulder Girdle collapse forward. This brings the head and neck forward, making us more vulnerable to being hit.

Another common reaction to a punch is to shove the arms forward in a rigid flinching manner. This typically is accompanied by holding the breath and sometimes closing the eyes.

Trying to resist or get away from a punch only compounds the potential danger of the situation. Our fear of what is happening or going to happen overwhelms us and creates freezing sensations. The key to unlocking this Reactive Behavior is to actually feel what is happening. Tension is tension. Defensiveness is Defensiveness. Once a person becomes more familiar with what, exactly, these moments feel like in the body, the Options for other choices become more apparent.

Inviting the Punch provides us with the opportunity to Practice feeling what is actually happening. Boxing is perfect for providing many, many opportunities to get inside of our Tension Patterns. The Shoulder Slump gradually is redirected into a confident Lat Flare, and Flinching becomes an opportunity to load the Sling Shot and return to the present.

How Do We Build Support Networks?

So far, Mentoring Movement is out to create support for people starting on their exercise journey.  We know there is plenty of information, plenty of resources, plenty of organizations, plenty of inspirational “just do it” motivational quotes.  The real question is why do some people keep exercising, and why do some quit?  How do we get started and then KEEP GOING?

I have been reading a book called, The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg.  In this book he outlines the process that gets new habits started.  With each repeated behavior, there is a cue (stressed out), a repeated behavior (eat ice cream), and a reward (pleasure / relief).  After a while, we enjoy this reward so much that we begin to anticipate it, even before we get the cue.  This creates a craving, and reinforces the behavior cycle.  Unfortunately, once that habit is wired, it can never be completely extinguished.  If you see a commerical for Ben & Jerry’s, your old craving and behavior pattern will get triggered.  So instead of trying to “get rid” of that old behavior, you can put a new behavior in its place.  When you’re stressed out, you can call a friend instead of diving head-first into the ice cream, and get a similar sense of relief.  (Here’s a great flow-chart on how to change a habit.)

This process of replacing one behavior pattern with another will only get you so far, and it’s why people will start exercising, but not stick with it.  Eventually, the old behavior pattern will win if they don’t believe that change is possible, and see that it is working for others.  I knew this was missing from so many exercise programs, even before I knew it was a necessary component of creating lasting change in people’s habits.

The question is: How Do We Get People Together To Create Belief?

I don’t know the answer to this … I just know that together we can answer it.  I come to you having seen something that we need, and ask for your help in creating the belief that together, supporting each other, we can help each other change, see the change in each other, and make the changes that will withstand any temptation!

7 Steps to Prevent Getting Stuck in an Emotion | Tiny Buddha

7 Steps to Prevent Getting Stuck in an Emotion | Tiny Buddha.

This article is quite helpful in getting back on track.  We want what we perceive as a positive experience to last forever, and when it doesn’t we get disappointed and depressed.  We start out towards our goals on a high of inspiration, but what happens after we’ve been on the path for a while?  How can we keep going?  Some of the tips in this article might help you.

Let me know if you have other tips besides what is in the article.  I’d love to hear how you stay motivated.